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Herpes Support Groups and Herpes Social Groups

HERPES SUPPORT GROUPS and HERPES SOCIAL GROUPS

Herpes Support Groups and Herpes Social Groups exist in most major cities in the US and Canada and online, and we list them all below.  Herpes support groups are sometimes called “HELP” support groups, and are occasionally affiliated with ASHA, the American Social Health Association.  Herpes social  groups often use terms like “Friends” as in “Bay Area Friends” or “H2O” as in “DC H2O” or “H Club” as in “Atlanta H Club.”   A lot of regional herpes groups can be found on Meetup.com, Yahoo Groups, Facebook and other websites and social media platforms.  Many local herpes groups function as both a Herpes Support Group and a Herpes Social Group.

There are also many “secret” (hidden) Facebook groups that have hundreds of members, but cannot be found by doing a search and require knowing the right person who can “add” you.  If you cannot find your local herpes social group or herpes support group on the list below – never fear!  There may be a *secret* Facebook group in your area.  View the list below, then follow the instructions to join your local herpes group.

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Herpes Privacy Tips

Most of us are concerned about privacy online and do not want our sensitive, personal information to be seen by the rest of the world.  If you want to take extra precautions to keep your herpes status private online, we recommend the following:

– Create a brand new email account and username on Gmail or Yahoo that does not use your real name or any other words that too closely identify who you are.  For instance, if your real name is “Kate Frisbatch” from Los Angeles, you might create a new email account such as “k818angel@gmail.com* and your username might be “K818 Angel”.

– Use this new email address and username *exclusively* for your herpes-related online activities.  Do NOT share this email address with any of your non-herpes friends.  Do NOT use this email address to do anything else except to sign up for herpes groups, herpes dating services, and herpes social media sites (including Facebook).

– If you join any herpes groups on social media (such as Meetup, Facebook, Yahoo, or other community sites), do NOT accept friend requests from anyone you haven’t already met, except for group admins/moderators.  While most people who join herpes groups are nice, normal people, there are always a few folks out there who are trolling for dates/sex, or who send you a message recommending a herpes site, group, product or dating service for which they may receive a commission or have another motive for getting you to join.   If anyone like this contacts you, please report this immediately to your group admins or contact us at this site.  We will tell you whether or not the person or what they are recommending is legitimate.

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LIST OF HERPES GROUPS

UNITED STATES

National Herpes Hotline: (919) 361-8488

Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255

NATIONAL HELP HERPES SUPPORT GROUP

National HELP is a *secret* Facebook herpes support group for herpes-related topics only. This hidden, private, confidential group has thousands of members and is moderated by experienced Herpes Support Group Leaders from all over the USA. Because this Facebook group is *secret* – it is hidden and cannot be found by doing a search on Facebook.  Instead, you need to be *added* by a group admin.  All group activity for National HELP is completely private and will NEVER appear on your public Facebook profile and cannot be found or seen by anyone except other members.  Please carefully follow the below directions to be added to this group.

To join National HELP, the secret Facebook herpes support group, please follow these directions:

Log in to Facebook first! Unless you are logged in to Facebook first, the link below will not work.

AFTER you are already logged in to Facebook, find JoAnn Purkey of Kaiserslautern High School or go to https://www.facebook.com/joann.purkey  (she OK’d this link).

Send JoAnn a “friend request.”

– Then send JoAnn a *private message* (don’t post on her wall) saying something like “I found your name on DatingWithHerpes.org.  I have herpes and want to join National HELP on Facebook.”  If you cannot find your local herpes group on the list below, then also make sure to tell JoAnn your city/state and tell her that you would also like to also be connected to your local herpes group. JoAnn will add you to National HELP first, and then JoAnn or Schyler will contact you to add you to your local group.  After that, you can un-friend her/them if you want.

NOTE: Please do not accept any *friend requests* from anyone you don’t know, except National HELP admins or your local group admins, within your first few weeks of joining.  If anyone else, including any other H group admins that JoAnn or Schyler did not refer you to, contact you privately within your first few weeks of joining, and recommend other Facebook groups or websites for you to join, please say “Thanks, but I’m going to get used to National HELP and my local group first before joining any other groups.”  They may be very nice but very persistent and say “let me help you by adding  you now and you can always unjoin later if you want.”   Just say “no thank you for now” and take your time getting to know your way around National HELP and your local group first before joining any other groups.  You can always join other groups later.  There are good reasons for this advice. Please contact JoAnn or Schyler or DatingWithHerpes.org if anyone is trying to get you to join other groups or websites within your first few weeks of joining National HELP or your local group.

The process of getting added to National HELP may take a few days.  Please be patient. JoAnn and the rest of us are just UNPAID VOLUNTEERS who do this in our spare time.    If you are waiting longer than a week, then please re-contact JoAnn in case your previous message didn’t reach her.

Other Secret Facebook Groups for Herpes and/or HPV –  There are numerous *Secret* Facebook groups for people with Herpes and/or HPV.   Many are location-based while others are based on topics, activities or special interests.   Please check the list below and join your local group first, or join National HELP through JoAnn and ask for help in connecting to your local or other groups.  JoAnn and/or Schyler will help you get connected.

Alabama

There is *secret* Facebook group in this state.  Join National HELP (see top listing) and ask to be added to your local group.

Alaska

Meet Alaskans with HSV2 Meetup Group

There is a secret Facebook group for Alaska.  Contact the group above or National HELP for more info.

Arizona

AZ Heeps Meetup Group - new as of November 2014

Arizona Singles With Herpes Yahoo Group

Tucson H Friends Yahoo Group

Prescott Herpes Support Group – email hsgprescott (at) gmail dot com

There is a *secret* Facebook group in this state.  Join one of the local groups below or National HELP (see top listing) and ask to be added to your local Facebook group.

Arkansas

Little Rock H Friends – not very active

There is a *secret* Facebook group in this state.  Join National HELP (see top listing) and ask to be added to your local group.

California

Bay Area Friends (BAF) Meetup Group – San Francisco Bay Area – nearly 2000 members of all backgrounds and preferences (number includes members of BAF’s original Yahoo Group, which is being phased out).  Bay Area Friends has been around since 1998.

Bay Area Friends (BAF) Public Website – San Francisco Bay Area – Information site only.

SF Bay Area Gay Men with Herpes Yahoo Group – San Francisco Bay Area – not very active, so also join Bay Area Friends on Meetup.

Bay Area Lesbians with Herpes – San Francisco Bay Area – not very active, so also join Bay Area Friends on Meetup.

San Diego H Friends on Meetup – San Diego group, over 500 members

San Diego Friends Yahoo Group  – San Diego – is being replaced by the Meetup Group

San Diego HELP Support Group – San Diego

LA HELP public website – Los Angeles – is now combined with OC HELP.

LA HELP Support Group on Meetup – is now combined with OC HELP on Meetup

Orange County HELP Support Group – Orange County – is now part of LA HELP.

Southern California Friends Yahoo Group  – All Southern California

Socials All Over Southern CA Meetup Group – All Southern California

Happy Social  and Vibrant Socials in SoCal Meetup Group

Central Cali H Friends – Stockton-Fresno-Bakersfield – members often carpool to H events in the SF Bay Area or Los Angeles, etc.

Sac Friends Yahoo Group – Sacramento

There are also a few *secret* Facebook groups in California.  Please join your local group above for more info.

Colorado

Colorado H Friends

There is a *secret* Facebook group in this state.  Join Colorado H Friends or  National HELP and ask to be added to your local FB group.

Connecticut

There is a *secret* Facebook group in this state.  Join National HELP (see top listing) and ask to be added to your local group.

Manchester HELP – (860) 666-0075 (Susan) or 860-810-6617 (Jenny) or Email: hsv2secret (at) sbcglobal.net

Delaware

There is a *secret* Facebook group in the Mid-Atlantic Region.  Join National HELP (see top listing) and ask to be added to your local group.

Florida

South Florida Herpes Meetup Group – new as of December 2014

South Florida H Social Club Yahoo Group – Palm Beach, Broward / Miami

Northern Florida H Friends Yahoo Group – not very active

Central Florida H2O Group –  Social and Support Group for Orlando, Tampa, Daytona and surrounding areas

Sarasota-Bradenton H Club 

Tampa Bay H Club Yahoo Group – not very active

Jax-437737 Yahoo Group – Jacksonville

Friends on the Beach – an annual weekend event in St. Petersburg, FL  – usually in October or November

Florida has a secret Facebook group – join any other Florida group for more information.

Georgia

Atlanta H Club Yahoo Group

There is a *secret* Facebook group in this state.  Please join Atlanta H Club or National HELP for more info.

Hawaii

There is a secret Facebook group for Hawaii. Please contact National HELP for more info.

Idaho

There is a secret Facebook Group for Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, North Dakota and South Dakota.  Please join National HELP for more info.

Illinois

CHicago  Friends – “H” Social Group on Meetup

ChicagoHClub – Social Group – For information, please email ChicagoHClub@Gmail.com

Central Illinois Prairie Friends Yahoo Group

Illinois H Friends Yahoo Group

People of Color Chicago (POC Chicago) Yahoo Group – an African-American oriented group.

Secret Facebook Groups exist for Chicago and Illinois.  Join any of the other local groups for more info.

Indiana

Indianapolis HELP Support Group

People of Color (POC) Ohio/Indy - An African-American oriented group

Indiana Secret Facebook Groups – for local residents only – join any Indiana group for more info.

Iowa

Polk County Health Department offers a free Herpes support group that meets once a month. Every 4th Tuesday of the month 6-7pm at 1907 Carpenter Avenue, Des Moines, Iowa 50314, For information call 515-286-3741

There is a secret Facebook group for people with herpes who live in Iowa.  Contact National HELP for more info.

Kentucky

Louisville H Friends Yahoo Group

There are secret Facebook groups for Louisville and Lexington.  Join Louisville H Friends on Yahoo or contact National HELP for more info.

Louisiana

Louisiana H Friends – Yahoo Group – HSV and HPV Support for New Orleans and Louisiana.

There is also a secret Facebook group for Louisian.  Join Louisiana H Friends or National HELP for more info.

Maine

There is a secret Facebook group for Maine and New England.  Please join National HELP for more info.

Maryland

DC-H2O Social Group – for Washington, DC, Baltimore, and surrounding areas.

HELP of Washington (DC) Support Group – Also called Metro DC Help

There are secret Facebook groups for Maryland and Washington, DC.  Please join DC-H2O for more info.

Massachusetts

Boston Herpes Social and Support Group – Includes links to Beantown Friends and Boston HELP (support group)

There are secret Facebook groups for Massachusetts.  Please contact Boston Herpes above for more info.

Michigan

Capitol City Friends – Lansing

Detroit – Metro Detroit HELP Support Group

Motor City Friends Yahoo Group

Motor City Friends on Meetup

Motor City Friends Secret Facebook Group – for local residents only – join the Motor City Friends Yahoo Group or Meetup Group for more info.

People of Color – Michigan – African-American oriented social group

West Michigan H Friends on Meetup

Rochester HELP

Washtenaw County HELP (@ Ann Arbor)

Minnesota

Twin Cities H Social Meetup Group

Twin Cities Lesbians with Herpes Yahoo Group

Family Planning and STD Hotline: http://sexualhealthmn.org/

There may be a secret Facebook group for Minnesota. Contact National HELP for more info.

Mississippi

There is secret Facebook group for Mississippi and Southern States.  Contact National HELP for more info.

Missouri

People of Color (POC) Social Networking Missouri - has directions for how to join the Facebook group.

There are secret Facebook groups for St. Louis and Missouri.  Contact National HELP for more info.

Montana

There is a secret Facebook Group for Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, North Dakota and South Dakota.  Please join National HELP for more info.

Nebraska

Omaha-CB H Friends on Meetup

Nevada

Las Vegas Friends Yahoo Group

Northern Nevada Friends Yahoo Group

There is a secret Facebook group for Nevada. Contact National HELP for more info.

New Hampshire

There is a secret Facebook group for people who live in the New England area.  Contact National HELP for more info.

New Jersey

New Jersey Friends on Yahoo Groups

There are secret Facebook groups for NJ and Philly.  Please contact National HELP for more info.

New Mexico

Southern New Mexico and El Paso H Community on Meetup

New York

Buffalo-Western New York State – http://www.wnyhhelp.com  – started in early 2015

Herpes New York Yahoo Group

Herpes New York Secret Facebook Group – email herpny (at) yahoo dotcom

Herpes Information New York – Yahoo Group

Herpes Dating New York City Meetup Group

People of Color New York – African-American oriented social group

Buffalo and Western New York H Friends Yahoo Group – uses 437737 in name.

Upstate NY Friends Yahoo Group

Hudson Valley Friends Yahoo Group

There are secret Facebook groups in New York state.  Contact any local group or National HELP for more info.

North Carolina

CharlotteH.com

Raleigh Triangle H Club Herpes Meetup Group

People of Color – North Carolina Yahoo Group – African-American oriented social group.

Carolina H Club Yahoo Group

Upstate SC and Western NC H Group on Yahoo

There are secret Facebook groups for North Carolina.  Please join any local group here or contact National HELP for more info.

North Dakota

There is a secret Facebook Group for Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, North Dakota and South Dakota.  Please join National HELP for more info.

Ohio

Cleveland – See Ohio Friends

Cincinnati HELPhttp://www.cincinnatiherpes.org/ – Herpes Support Group

Living With HSV in the 419 – Toledo

Ohio Friends – For Cleveland, Columbus, and all of Ohio

Club 437737 Meetup Group - Columbus

People of Color (POC) Ohio/Indy - An African-American oriented social group

There are secret Facebook groups for Ohio.  Join any local group here or contact National HELP for more info.

Oklahoma

Oklahoma H Club Yahoo Group

Oklahoma Secret Facebook Group – for local residents only – join Oklahoma H Club or contact National HELP for more info.

Oregon

Portland Area Friends on Yahoo

There is a *secret* Facebook Group for Portland, OR and surrounding areas.  Join Portland Area Friends or contact National HELP for more info.

Pennsylvania

Philadelphia Friends Yahoo Group

Pittsburgh United Friends – For HSV and HPV

Northeastern Pennsylvania Friends (NEPA Friends)

There are secret Facebook groups for Pennsylvania.  Please contact any local PA group or National HELP for more info.

Rhode Island

Boston Herpes Social and Support Group – Includes links to Beantown Friends and Boston HELP (support group)

There is also a secret Facebook group for New Englanders.  Contact the link above for more info.

South Carolina

Carolina H Net Yahoo Group

Upstate SC and Western NC H Group on Yahoo

There is a secret Facebook group for this area.  Contact National HELP for more info.

South Dakota

There is a secret Facebook Group for Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, North Dakota and South Dakota.  Please join National HELP for more info.

Tennessee

Memphis H Friends Yahoo Group

H Singles in Franklin Meetup Group – Franklin, TN area

There are secret Facebook groups for Tennessee.  Contact National HELP for more info.

Texas

Friends Over Texas Annual Event in May

Austin H Friends on Meetup

Austin Friends Yahoo Group

Austin HELP Support Group

DFW Friends

Southern New Mexico and El Paso H Community on Meetup – includes El Paso

Houston H Friends general information site

Houston H Friends on Meetup

Social Houston Heeps (SHH) Meetup Group

San Antonio Friends Yahoo Group – also provides info on San Antonio HELP group

Clear Lake and Galveston County H Friends Meetup Group

Clear Lake Texas Friends Yahoo Group

Texas Secret Facebook Groups – for local residents only – join any local Texas group for more info.

Utah

There is likely to be a secret Facebook group for Utah and Salt Lake City.  Contact National HELP for info.

Vermont

Vermont H Friends Yahoo Group

There is a secret Facebook group for Vermont.  Join the local group above or contact National HELP for more info.

Virginia

Virginia H Friends Yahoo Group

People of Color (POC) HAMPTON ROADS/RICHMOND Yahoo Group – African-American oriented social group

DC-H2O Social Group – Washington DC and surrounding areas, including VA

There is a secret Facebook group for Virginia.  Contact National HELP for more info.

Washington State

Seattle H Scene Meetup Group

Seattle H Scene Public Website (http://www.seattlehscene.org)

Capital Area Friends Yahoo Group (Olympia/Tacoma) – not active – join Seattle H Scene and secret FB groups instead.

IEHSVSingles Yahoo Group – Eastern Washington, Inland Empire, and Spokane Washington – not very active – so also join Seattle H Scene

There is *secret* Facebook group for Washington state.  Join Seattle H Scene on Meetup for more info.

Washington D.C.

DC-H2O Social Group – for Washington, DC and surrounding areas

HELP of Washington (DC) Support Group – also known as Metro DC Help

West Virginia

West Virginia residents can join a secret FB group for the Mid-Atlantic region.  Please join National HELP for more info.

Wisconsin

S-W-A-G Herpes Yahoo Group for Madison and Milwaukee, WI

There is a secret Facebook Group for Wisconsin.  Join the local group or contact National HELP for more info.

Wyoming

There is a secret Facebook Group for Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, North Dakota and South Dakota.  Please join National HELP for more info.

INTERNATIONAL

AUSTRALIA

Living Sphere – http://www.livingsphere.com

Herpes Hangout Yahoo Group  - http://au.groups.yahoo.com/group/herpeshangout/

There are secret Facebook groups for Australia and New Zealand. Contact your local group or National HELP for more info.

CANADA

Toronto Herpes – Toronto HELP support group for people with genital herpes

Vancouver H Friends on Meetup

Vancouver H Friends Yahoo Group – being replaced by Vancouver H Friends Meetup Group above

Vancouver HELP Support Group – active

Forest City Friends (London, Ontario)

H Support and Social Group Ottawa Meetup Group – Ottawa

Five by Five H Yahoo Group - new group forming to serve Hamilton, Halton, Grand Erie, Upper Grand, Niagara and Kitchener-Waterloo

Canadians with Herpes Yahoo Group – not very active

There are many secret Facebook groups for Canada including other cities.  Contact any local Canadian group or National HELP for more info.

RUSSIA

http://herpes.ru/her/pat/gh/sup/

UNITED KINGDOM

H-YPE – HSV/HPV Dating and Community site.  The dating side of H-YPE is not free –  but the access to support is free as “standard/free” members can post their questions in the forum and get the answers from many the H-YPE advisors and current members.

OTHER COUNTRIES

There are secret Facebook groups for other countries.  Contact National HELP for more info.

SPECIAL INTEREST GROUPS

People of Color Social Network (POCSN) – A group with an African-American focus, although everyone is welcome.

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National Herpes Hotline: (919) 361-8488

Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255

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How To Get Your Herpes Support Group  or Herpes Social Groups Listed on DatingWithHerpes.org

If your herpes support group or herpes social group is not yet listed here, or if your information or link has changed, please contact us at DatingWithHerpes.org and give us your group’s info and we will add, remove or correct it next time the site is updated.  We also greatly appreciate reciprocal links back to  DatingWithHerpes.org on your own group’s website.  Reciprocal links are highly encouraged, but NOT required to be listed here, but PLEASE do support us if you can by linking to DatingWithHerpes.org and/or recommending this site to others.  Let’s keep the H community  strong and well-networked by linking our herpes groups to each other and helping new people find us!

If you know of a group that is not listed above and should be, please use our Contact Form or email us at:

datingwithherpes @ gmail dot com

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  • Emily says:

    Thank you!

    04/08/2012 at 5:58 am

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