Herpes Dating Sites and Herpes Dating Tips
Below is a list and comparison of several online dating services that are specifically for men and women with genital herpes (and sometimes HPV or other STDs). This list describes each dating sites’ services, prices, and some pros and cons. Even if you are not yet ready to date again, it can be very comforting and confidence building to see the profiles of the thousands of other single people with herpes who are attractive, nice and normal like everyone else. These sites are listed in NO particular order. DatingWithHerpes.org does NOT endorse or promote any particular site or service – we just try to make good information available to you so you can choose the path that is best for you.
If you would prefer to meet people with herpes at local and regional herpes social events in your area, please see our page about Herpes Social Groups. Most major cities in the US and Canada have active herpes social groups, some with hundreds or thousands of members. Most local Herpes Social Groups are FREE and run by volunteers and regular members are encouraged to organize events. Also, most local Herpes Social Groups are NOT just for singles, and anyone with herpes can join regardless of their relationship status. Although people often date people they meet at local herpes social events, the main emphasis is on making friendships with other people with Herpes. If you are primarily interested in finding other people with herpes TO DATE, then join a herpes dating service as well.
Below the first list of Herpes Dating Services is a list of Regular Online Dating Services where many people with herpes also date successfully. If you need tips for how to talk to potential partners about herpes, go to “Telling Someone” (that you have herpes). Below the first list of Herpes Dating Services is a list of Regular Online Dating Services where many people with herpes also date successfully. If you need tips for how to talk to potential partners about herpes, go to “Telling Someone” (that you have herpes). Below the first list of Herpes Dating Services is a list of Regular Online Dating Services where many people with herpes also date successfully. If you need tips for how to talk to potential partners about herpes, go to “Telling Someone” (that you have herpes).
If you do not want to limit yourself just to dating people who already know that they have herpes, then scroll down below for some tips on using Regular Non-Herpes online dating services like Match.com, Eharmony and Craigslist. If you need tips for how to talk to potential partners about herpes, go to “Telling Someone” (that you have herpes).
Herpes Online Dating Services
| Herpes/STD Dating Services | Fees** | Comments |
| Hwerks.com | Free standard membership. 1 Month $6 3 Months $18 6 Months $30 12 Months $60 |
Growing community exclusively for people with Herpes (HSV1, HSV2) and HPV. In addition to user profiles and dating, it has community features, groups, blogs, forums, photos, local and national social group and event listings, etc.. They also host http://www.nationalhclub.com/ which lists herpes social events all over the US. They are supportive of local H social groups and social events |
| PositiveSingles.com | 1 month for $29.95 3 months for $59.95 6 months for $95.95 |
PositiveSingles.com (PS) is probably the largest online dating service for people with Herpes and other STDs. It is NOT exclusively for people with herpes. People with HPV, HSV1, HSV2, HIV, Hepatitis, and other STD’s are served in the same searchable profile database, so you can select just to see profiles with HSV1 and/or HSV2. PositiveSingles is one of the most expensive “H” dating services, but a lot of people sign up because there are many more profiles for people with herpes than most other sites. You can sign up for free and later decide if you want to pay to upgrade in order to email or reply to other members. Please Note: A Class Action Suit was filed against PositiveSingles and their parent company, Successful Match, in January 2012. For details go to: http://tcattorney.typepad.com/techlaw/2012/01/successfulmatchcom-class-action-filed-alleging-unfair-competition-and-californias-consumers-legal-re.html |
| Hmates.com | Free Trial period 1 month for $6 3 months for $15 6 months for $24 1 year for $36 2 years for $48 |
For people with Herpes (HSV1, HSV2) and/or HPV only. Members must post their own profile in order to view other members’ profiles and send emails. Very basic dating site, but one of the least expensive services for what it offers. Donations and volunteer moderators welcome. |
| MPWH.net | Free basic membership 3 months for $25.00 7 months for $45.00 1 year for $69.00 |
Claims to be the one of the largest online HSV and/or HPV dating services. You can post a profile, and send a Flirt for free. If you want to initiate a private message to another member, you must first pay to upgrade your account. However, if a paid member sends you a message first, you can respond to that person for free. MPWH reviews all member profiles, member forum posts, and personal correspondence between members – to prevent members from mentioning their local herpes social and support groups, local herpes social events, and other herpes websites – that they determine to be in violation of their Terms of Service. For instance, just by mentioning your local herpes support group or DatingWithHerpes.org – in your profile or in a personal message to another member – would violate MPWH’s Terms of Service and would result in your membership being cancelled. Because of MPWH’s unusually restrictive censorship practices, many people in the H community no longer use and no longer recommend MPWH. |
| AfterH.com | 1 month for $7.95 3 months for $9.95 6 months for $14.95 |
Recently updated interface. You must post a photo on your profile to view other people’s photos. |
| STDFriends.com | 1 Month subscription – $19.95 3 Months – $29.95 12 Months – $79.95 |
Not exclusively a herpes dating service. HPV, HSV, HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis, and other STD’s also covered. |
| H-Date.com | 1 month for $9.95 3 months for $19.95 6 months for $34.95 12 months for $59.95 |
Good user interface. Free to post profile, and show interest in other members, and to reply to paid members. Must be a paid member for full email privileges. |
| H-ype.com – UK based H community | Free standard membership 30 days – £4.95 90 days – £11.95 180 days – £19.95 365.days – £33.95 |
H-YPE is an Herpes and HPV dating and community website that currently has members mainly but not exclusively from the UK (United Kingdom aka England). H-YPE is an acronym for Herpes-Your Positive Experience. It offers herpsters the opportunity to communicate with others via email, winks, IM (instant messenger), chat rooms and forums. Local events are also planned. |
| Love H Style | $.99 1 Month $2.49 3 Months $4.99 6 Months $9.99 12 Months $99.99 – Lifetime |
According to their website, Love, H Style is a social “matchmaking” community and was created to provide a unique resource for people with Genital herpes, Oral herpes, Genital Warts, and HPV. Free limited membership. Only paid (upgraded) members can customize Profile, add streaming video, music, create Blogs, view all Bulletin Boards, visit Chat Rooms, and see profiles that are set only to be visible to other Upgraded Members |
| STAY AWAY from these Positive Singles Private Label Affiliate Sites which often use Deception and Spam to get new members. See list on the right. For info, see Herpes Scams | STAY AWAY FROM: DatingHerpes.net, HerpesAndDating.net, HerpesAndYouDating.com, HerpesDate.org, HerpesFish.com, HerpesMeet.com, HerpesMingles.com, HerpesPal.com, HerpesPeople.com, Hmeet.com, HSinglesMatch.com, PozLoving.com, Singleherpes.com, STDfish.com, Stdloving.com, STDmatching.com, STDDateline.com. These sites are known to have used deceptive marketing practices and/or spam. For info, see Herpes Scams & Spam | |
| **Fees are as of “last time we checked” and may not reflect most current prices. | ||
Non-Herpes Online Dating Services
| Non-Herpes Dating Services | Fees* | Comments |
| Match.com | 1 month $34.99/mo 3 months $19.99/mo 6 months $16.99/mo |
Large, popular online dating service. Dr. Phil is their relationship coach. |
| PlentyOfFish.com | Free Basic Membership.Paid (upgraded) membership plans for $6.78-$11.80/month depending on length of contract. | Large, popular online dating service, which was once totally free. They are now offering “upgraded” paid membership plans with expanded features. The company is based in Canada. |
| Eharmony.com* | 1 month $59.95/mo 3 months $36.95/mo 6 months $28/95/mo 1 year $20.95/mo |
Has a “Compatibility Matching System” and seems to be more for people looking for long-term relationships and marriage rather than casual dating. *See Disclosures. |
| Craigslist | FREE | Free to post personal ads via classifieds. However, once you email someone they will have your email address. For privacy/security, create an email address that does not include your real name or company. |
| Lavalife.com | 1 month $29.99/mo 3 months $56.99 |
Free to post profile, search and see pictures, free to send smiles and reply to Messages. Must join to send someone a message. |
| Chemistry.com | 7-day Free Trial 1 month $49.95/mo 3 months $33.32/mo 6 months $26.65/mo |
New dating service similar to eHarmony, from the same people as Match.com. Open to a wider variety of lifestyles and relationship types. |
| *Fees are as of “last time we checked” and may not reflect most current prices. | ||